Paul Stanley was born with a deformity called microtia which prevented his right ear from forming properly and left him deaf on that side. The Kiss front man’s childhood was miserable. Children called him a monster and his parents refused to offer any sympathy. It left him distrustful, paranoid and unhappy. Naughty but Nice caught up with Stanley who has a memoir out called ‘Face the Music: A Life Exposed’ to chat about the pain he went through.
Your parents practiced ‘tough love’ on you.
-Perhaps it was not that unusual for that generation but you make someone stronger by giving them more love. You make them stronger by being a channel for them to talk and to validate their feelings. What I found over the years was that what you deny and cover up doesn’t cease to exist and even if you can hide something from the public, you can’t hide it from yourself. Whether it’s pain or a sense of inferiority, that will remain and that doesn’t change until you come to grips with it, you get to the bottom of it and you resolve it.
It was pretty stunning for me to find out that (when I became famous) it made no difference and I think it’s great for people on the street to know that the people they look up to or inspire them have the same issues that they do and then it comes down to, how do you alleviate and heal yourself and come to terms with things. Perhaps that was one of the paramount reasons for me to finally write the book. The idea that I can perhaps make someone else’s life a little easier or put a little bit more light on things by telling people my journey. It’s not a Kiss book, it’s a book about a person coming of age and coming to grips with their own inadequacies.