Valerie Bertinelli was tired of feeling “like the most famous dieter of America.”
It was two years ago when the actress was ready to start 2020 by losing 10 pounds – “the same 10 lbs. I had been trying to lose for the past 40 years.”
But after losing her first husband Eddie Van Halen to cancer in October of that year, the 61-year-old realized she needed to focus on what truly mattered. It’s a story she explores in a new memoir titled “Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I am Today,” which was excerpted in this week’s issue of People magazine.
“The goal is to live in the moment,” she wrote. “And not according to the scale.”
“There is no magic number that will make me feel good about myself,” the Food Network star shared. “I’m done judging myself. I want to be kinder and more accepting of myself. I have a lot of decades of thinking I have to look a certain way for people to accept me and to like me.”
Bertinelli recalled how growing up, she witnessed her father “treat my mother badly” whenever the matriarch gained weight. And then in fifth grade, the star said a teacher poked her belly and said, “You want to keep an eye on that.”
“I learned at a very young age that when you gain weight, you’re not lovable,” she admitted. “And what I’m learning is that your body is not what makes you lovable.”
The self-scrutiny only worsened as she became a teen star on the popular sitcom “One Day at a Time.” She would often compare herself to costar Mackenzie Phillips.
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